When a couple breaks up there is a small window of time where the things you do can greatly increase or greatly decrease your chances of winning your ex back. Often the things we think we should do are EXACTLY the things we must avoid, but emotions take over and we don’t take enough time to step back and really think about what is good for the situation.


With that in mind, let’s go over three things to make sure you do not do.

1. Don’t cling to your ex and your memories of being together. If you attempt to hang around your ex just after a break-up and not give them time and space on their own to access things, you will be doing a lot of damage.  If you decide to be clingy or place make your ex have to deal with extra emotions they will get exhausted and your actions will verify their decision to leave you. You must give them space and this will help you too, as it will give you time to think about the real plan to win your ex back.


2. Avoid telling them you will change. Whatever happened, if you were in the wrong or them, don’t promise you will change because it will sound hollow and anyway, nobody changes overnight.  Promises like this sound just like a child who keeps saying “I won’t do it again,”  and aren’t going to make you look good to your ex. Your best bet is to let your ex know that they were right about splitting up, and then disappear for a while. It may be true that you need to make some personal changes, but that is a process that evolves over time, and you can work on that when you’re ready.

3. Don’t call the florist. Despite what any florists advertisements might hint at do not send flowers.  Make-up gifts aren’t a good idea, at least not for awhile. Flowers are to be used when you have forgotten an anniversary but for a break-up they look like desperation and won’t do.  Lay off on the gifts, maybe send a simple note with a very simple plain apology and leave it at that for now.


This kind of advice might be hard to swallow at first but you will see that it can mean the difference between make-up or break-up.  This is sound psychology, so trust it and back off. If you follow this advise and stay away for several days, you will soon see that you have a much clearer head. Thus, you will be able to devise a better plan to win your ex back permanently.

If you’re fresh out of a breakup, take heart.  Even if you have not been handling things well until now you can still learn how to win your ex back.


You need to determine how important they are to you. If you truly love your ex or have strong feelings for them, then you will want to get your head back on your shoulders and work on you plan for winning your ex back.